Questions to ask your wife
For the woman you married, and everything you have not asked lately.
You can share a bed for a decade and still miss what your wife is thinking about at 2am. Ask her.
These are for the woman you already know so well, and the parts of her that ordinary days never reach.
Wife / About her day and work
What is a quiet win from today that you kept to yourself?
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Deep
- 1What does being my wife feel like on an ordinary Tuesday?
- 2What part of yourself do you protect, even from me?
- 3What is something you have never told me because it felt too small to say?
- 4What do you wish I noticed about you without being asked?
- 5When do you feel most at ease being fully yourself with me?
- 6What is something about our marriage you are quietly afraid of?
- 7What have you quietly let go of since we got married?
- 8What do you need from me on the days you feel invisible at home?
- 9What is a piece of yourself you found only after we got married?
- 10What do you still wish I understood about how you were raised?
- 11What is the hardest thing you have carried since we said I do?
- 12What does it mean to you that I get to know all of you?
- 13What is a strength of yours I do not give enough credit for?
- 14What do you need to hear from me that I do not say enough?
Fun
- 15What is the most dramatic you have ever been about a small household disaster?
- 16What is a signature move you pull on me that always works?
- 17What is the pettiest thing you have ever refused to let me win?
- 18What chore do you secretly judge me for doing wrong?
- 19What is the most ridiculous nickname you have ever called me by accident?
- 20What snack disappears the fastest once it lands in our kitchen?
- 21What is the funniest thing you have ever caught me doing when I thought I was alone?
- 22What is your honest review of my cooking, no mercy allowed?
- 23What is the silliest tradition of ours that started completely by accident?
- 24What do you steal from my side of the closet the most?
- 25What is the most unhinged thing you have said to me half asleep?
- 26What is a goofy habit of mine you would actually miss if it vanished tomorrow?
About us
- 27What do you think makes our marriage work when things get hard?
- 28What is something about how we run this household that you are proud of?
- 29When do you feel most in sync with me without either of us trying?
- 30What is a decision we made together that turned out better than you expected?
- 31What do you think other couples could learn from watching us?
- 32What is something I do as your husband that you never expected to need?
- 33What has surprised you most about the husband I turned out to be?
- 34What is a compromise of ours you are quietly proud we made?
- 35What do you think keeps us solid on the weeks that test us most?
- 36What is a part of married life nobody warned you about?
- 37What do you think we understand about each other that no one else does?
- 38What is a way I show up for you that you have never fully thanked me for?
- 39What do you hope our marriage looks like to people thirty years from now?
- 40What is something about being my wife that still catches you off guard?
About her day and work
- 41What is the part of your day you never really get to tell me about?
- 42What is something at your job that has been quietly stressing you out?
- 43What is something from work you wish you could just leave at the door?
- 44What is a quiet win from today that you kept to yourself?
- 45Who at work do you talk about more than you realize?
- 46What is something about your career you are still figuring out?
- 47What part of your job do you secretly love but never brag about?
- 48What is weighing on you today that has nothing to do with us?
- 49What is something you wish your coworkers actually understood about you?
- 50What is something about your work life you wish I asked about more?
- 51How do you want me to react when you vent about a rough day?
- 52What is a work goal you have not fully told me about yet?
Dreams and the future
- 53What dream of yours have you quietly put on hold since we got married?
- 54What do you want to have accomplished five years from now, just for you?
- 55What is one place we have never been that you want to see with me?
- 56What do you hope changes about us in the next few years?
- 57What kind of wife do you still hope to become?
- 58What do you want to be true about our home ten years from now?
- 59What is something you want to build that is entirely your own?
- 60What is a tradition you want us to start and keep for good?
- 61What does growing old as my wife actually look like in your head?
- 62What is a milestone ahead of us you are quietly nervous about?
- 63What do you want to be remembered for, beyond being my wife?
- 64What is one thing you want us to vow to each other for the years ahead?
Flirty
- 65What is it about me you still cannot help but notice?
- 66What is your favorite way for me to flirt with you these days?
- 67What is something small I wear that you secretly find attractive?
- 68What is the smallest touch from me that still gets your attention?
- 69When did I last make you feel irresistible without even trying?
- 70What is a habit of mine you would never admit turns you on?
- 71What is a way you want me to seduce you without saying a word?
- 72What is a look from me that you cannot help but react to?
- 73What would make you feel chased again, even after all this time?
- 74What is one bold thing you have always wanted to try with me?
Over text
- 75What is currently more stressful, your inbox or our group chat?
- 76What is distracting you most from getting anything done right now?
- 77What is one thing on your to-do list you are dreading right now?
- 78What small thing today made you think of home?
- 79What do you need me to grab on the way back tonight?
- 80What do you wish I would just ask you right now?
