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Questions to ask your husband

Questions to ask your husband

For the man you married, years in and still worth knowing better.

Marriage has a way of turning two people into a routine. The fix is not a grand gesture, it is a better question over dinner.

These are for the man you already know by heart, and all the parts of him you have stopped asking about.

Husband / Fun

What is your unofficial job title in this house, if you had to name one?

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Deep

  1. 1What does being a good husband actually mean to you?
  2. 2What part of yourself did marrying me bring out that you did not expect?
  3. 3What do you carry for us that I probably do not fully see?
  4. 4What is something you have never admitted you needed from marriage?
  5. 5When do you feel most like the man you actually want to be?
  6. 6What is a fear about being a husband you have never said out loud?
  7. 7Do you think I actually know how hard some of your days are?
  8. 8What has surprised you most about yourself since we got married?
  9. 9What are you still chasing, even though you already have me?
  10. 10What is something you needed to hear as a kid that you still need now?
  11. 11What do you wish I understood about the pressure you put on yourself?
  12. 12Who are you when nobody needs anything from you?
  13. 13What does it cost you to be the steady one so often?
  14. 14What do you need from this marriage that you have never actually asked for?

Fun

  1. 15What is a phrase you have started saying that sounds exactly like your dad?
  2. 16What snack do you hide in this house and think I do not know about?
  3. 17What is your go-to excuse for buying something you did not need?
  4. 18Which household chore do you secretly enjoy more than you would admit?
  5. 19Which argument do you still consider yourself the secret winner of?
  6. 20What would your entrance music be if you walked into a room like a hero?
  7. 21What is the most ridiculous thing you have fixed yourself instead of calling someone?
  8. 22What is your unofficial job title in this house, if you had to name one?
  9. 23What show would you finish without me if you thought I would not notice?
  10. 24What ordinary thing do you and I somehow turn into a competition?
  11. 25Which one of my habits do you lovingly roll your eyes at?
  12. 26What is the silliest way you show me that you love me?

About us

  1. 27What is your favorite ordinary memory of the two of us this year?
  2. 28What do we do as a team better than anyone else you know?
  3. 29What is something about loving me that still feels new to you?
  4. 30What is one thing I do that instantly makes your whole day better?
  5. 31When do you feel proudest to be married to me?
  6. 32What is something about me you understood without me ever explaining it?
  7. 33What is a hard season we got through that made you trust us more?
  8. 34What do you think people notice about us that we do not see ourselves?
  9. 35What is the most underrated part of choosing me, even on hard days?
  10. 36What is a small thing I do that you have never told me you noticed?
  11. 37What do you love most about the life we have built together so far?
  12. 38What is something about marrying me that turned out different than you expected?
  13. 39What is one thing you never want us to stop doing together?
  14. 40What do you appreciate about me now that you did not see when we first married?

About his day and work

  1. 41What is the first thing you want the second you walk through the door after work?
  2. 42What is something about your job you wish I understood better?
  3. 43What actually helps you unwind after a brutal day at work?
  4. 44What is something you are proud of at work that you rarely mention to me?
  5. 45Which coworker tests your patience more than you would ever admit?
  6. 46What does a genuinely good day at work actually look like for you?
  7. 47What do you need from me on the nights work completely wrecks you?
  8. 48What is the smallest thing I do that makes your workday easier?
  9. 49Do you feel like the work you do actually gets seen?
  10. 50What part of your daily routine would you change first if you could?
  11. 51Would you choose this same career if you were starting over today?
  12. 52What time of your workday do you catch yourself thinking of me?

Dreams and the future

  1. 53What is a goal of yours right now that you have not told many people about?
  2. 54What kind of husband do you hope to be ten years from now?
  3. 55What is one adventure you refuse to let life talk you out of?
  4. 56How do you picture the two of us spending an ordinary day once we are old?
  5. 57What do you hope any kids of ours grow up knowing for sure?
  6. 58What is a legacy you want to leave that has nothing to do with money?
  7. 59What is something you want us to still be brave enough to do at seventy?
  8. 60What is one thing about getting older together that does not scare you at all?
  9. 61What do you want your last day of work to feel like, whenever that is?
  10. 62What is a promise about our future you have never actually said out loud?
  11. 63What do you hope I never stop doing, even when we are old and gray?
  12. 64What are you quietly most excited about in the next chapter of our life?

Flirty

  1. 65What is your favorite way for me to get your attention from across a room?
  2. 66What is something about me you find more attractive now than you used to?
  3. 67What is a memory of us that you replay when you miss me?
  4. 68When do you feel the strongest pull toward me lately?
  5. 69What is one thing I wear that you hope makes another appearance soon?
  6. 70What is the boldest thing you have thought about doing with me lately?
  7. 71What still catches you off guard about how much you want me?
  8. 72What is a small touch from me that you find yourself craving?
  9. 73What do you think about right before you kiss me goodbye?
  10. 74What is a moment with me you wish you could live again, just for the feeling?

Over text

  1. 75What is one thing that would make the rest of your workday better?
  2. 76What is the one thing you cannot wait to tell me tonight?
  3. 77What would you order if I surprised you with lunch today?
  4. 78What song has been stuck in your head all day?
  5. 79What is one thing today that made you glad we are married?
  6. 80What time are you actually walking out the door tonight?

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