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Married couple questions

For the two of you, years in and still curious about each other.

The danger in a long marriage is not running out of love. It is running out of questions and assuming you already know all the answers.

These are for couples who have been together a while: the everyday, the deep, the fun, and the ones that keep you falling for the person you already married.

Married / Dreams and the years ahead

What is a chapter of our life together that has not started yet?

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Everyday married life

  1. 1What is the first thing you notice when you walk into our home tired?
  2. 2Who do you think carries more of the mental load around here?
  3. 3What is your favorite part of our weekday morning routine?
  4. 4Which chore do you secretly not mind doing?
  5. 5What small thing do I do every day that you would miss immediately?
  6. 6What does a perfect ordinary Sunday with me look like to you?
  7. 7Who is the better cook between us, honestly?
  8. 8What house rule do you think we should never break?
  9. 9What is something about living with me that surprised you?
  10. 10Which side of the bed feels more like yours by now?
  11. 11What is the most married thing we do without even noticing?
  12. 12What do you actually think about right before you fall asleep next to me?
  13. 13What is a habit of mine you have quietly gotten used to?
  14. 14Who usually gives in first when we argue about the thermostat?
  15. 15What is the best part of coming home to me every day?
  16. 16What is one small routine of ours you never want us to lose?

Deeper after all these years

  1. 17What has marriage taught you that dating never did?
  2. 18What do our wedding vows mean to you now that we have lived them?
  3. 19What is the hardest season we have gotten through since we got married?
  4. 20What do you understand about commitment now that you did not as a newlywed?
  5. 21What is something about me that grew on you slowly over the years?
  6. 22What do you think keeps a marriage honest when nobody is watching?
  7. 23What is a promise you have kept without ever saying it out loud?
  8. 24What have you forgiven me for that I might not even know about?
  9. 25What does till death do us part actually mean to you now?
  10. 26What is the bravest part of choosing to stay married?
  11. 27What version of us are you proudest of right now?
  12. 28What has marriage demanded of you that caught you off guard?
  13. 29What has staying married taught you about yourself?
  14. 30What is the unglamorous work of marriage that nobody else sees?
  15. 31What do you think has made us harder to break over time?
  16. 32What did you expect marriage to fix that it never did?

Fun for married couples

  1. 33What is the funniest thing that went wrong on our wedding day?
  2. 34If we renewed our vows tomorrow, what would you want to redo?
  3. 35What is the most old married couple thing we do in public?
  4. 36Who actually snores worse, no matter what you claim?
  5. 37What wedding gift do we still use all the time?
  6. 38Which relative caused the most drama at our wedding?
  7. 39What is the silliest thing we have argued about since getting married?
  8. 40What nickname have you started using since we got married?
  9. 41What song from our wedding still gets you every time?
  10. 42What competition have you and I kept up since our wedding day?
  11. 43How often do people say we finish each other's sentences?
  12. 44If we got tattoos of our wedding date, where would yours go?
  13. 45What is the best line from either of our wedding speeches?
  14. 46What retirement community activity would you and I completely dominate?

Kids, family, and home

  1. 47What is one value you would want any kid of ours to grow up with?
  2. 48What is a tradition from your childhood you want to bring into our home?
  3. 49What is something your parents did that you hope we do too?
  4. 50What do you want the kids in our life to remember about us?
  5. 51How do you want our home to feel to anyone who walks in?
  6. 52What do you think your parents taught you about marriage without meaning to?
  7. 53What is your honest opinion of how we handle each other's families?
  8. 54Whose family traditions have taken over our holidays, yours or mine?
  9. 55What is one thing you want to protect about our family, no matter what?
  10. 56What is something about you that you hope gets passed down one day?
  11. 57What is a family habit of mine that took you completely by surprise?
  12. 58If we get a pet before we get anything else, what should it be?
  13. 59What do you think our future kids would find most embarrassing about us?
  14. 60What do you want to teach any kids of ours that nobody taught you?

Dreams and the years ahead

  1. 61Where do you picture us living once we are old and retired?
  2. 62What do you want us to still be doing together at eighty?
  3. 63What is one dream of yours we have not chased yet?
  4. 64What is a big risk you want us to take together someday?
  5. 65What do you hope people say about our marriage after we are both gone?
  6. 66What trip do we have to take before we are too old for it?
  7. 67What does retirement actually look like in your head?
  8. 68What do you want us to build together in the next ten years?
  9. 69What do you hope our life looks like once things finally slow down?
  10. 70What part of growing old together actually excites you?
  11. 71What do you want to have let go of by the time we are seventy?
  12. 72What do you want our anniversary parties to feel like as we get older?
  13. 73What do you hope we still laugh about, no matter how old we get?
  14. 74What is a chapter of our life together that has not started yet?

Keeping the spark alive

  1. 75What still gives you butterflies after all these years?
  2. 76What is a small effort of mine that still means everything to you?
  3. 77What does a perfect date night look like for us in this season?
  4. 78What is something we did while dating that we should bring back?
  5. 79What makes you feel desired by me on a completely ordinary day?
  6. 80What is the most effort you have ever put into surprising me?
  7. 81Do you think we flirt with each other enough these days?
  8. 82What is a small ritual that keeps us close on our busiest weeks?
  9. 83What is something I do that still makes you nervous, in a good way?
  10. 84When do you feel most wanted by me lately?
  11. 85What compliment from me do you still replay days later?
  12. 86What do you want our next date night to actually be?
  13. 87What is a way you want me to chase you again, like I used to?
  14. 88What do you still find irresistible about me after all this time?

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