Long distance relationship questions
For your next call, your next text, and the miles in between.
Distance takes away the easy closeness of a shared couch, so the words have to carry more. The right question turns a tired video call into a real one.
These are made for the miles between you: for your next call, for a slow text thread, for the nights you miss them, and for planning the day you close the gap.
Long distance / Over text
What do you type out and then delete before you send it to me?
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For your next video call
- 1What do you want to show me on camera before we hang up tonight?
- 2What can this call never fully show you about my day?
- 3What is something in your room right now that the camera never quite catches?
- 4If I were actually there tonight, what would we be doing instead of this call?
- 5What do you wish this screen would just let you do right now?
- 6What do you notice about my face on screen that you never say out loud?
- 7What would you want me to cook if I were standing in your kitchen tonight?
- 8What sound from your side of this call would surprise me?
- 9What do you want to talk about before our time runs out tonight?
- 10What is something small around your place you want to show me right now?
- 11How do you want to spend this call if nothing else is pulling at us?
- 12What do you wish you could hand me through this screen right now?
- 13What are you wearing right now that this camera is not showing me?
- 14What is one thing about tonight you want to remember tomorrow?
- 15What do you want me to know before we say goodnight?
- 16What do you do with your hands when you wish you could hold mine on this call?
Over text
- 17What is the first thing you want to text me when you wake up?
- 18What photo from today do you wish you could send me right now?
- 19What do you type out and then delete before you send it to me?
- 20What is a text from me that you keep saved and never mention?
- 21What do you want me to text you more often?
- 22What almost makes you call instead of text today?
- 23What is something you would only ever admit to me over text?
- 24What do you do the second my name pops up on your screen?
- 25Which text from me instantly changes your whole mood?
- 26How long do you let yourself stare at your phone waiting for me to reply?
- 27What do you wish a voice note could tell me that words cannot?
- 28What small thing today would make a good photo to send me?
- 29What do you type when you cannot find the right words to say?
- 30What do you want to text me right now, before you forget?
When you miss each other
- 31What time of day do you miss me most?
- 32What do you do when missing me gets hard to shake?
- 33What small thing reminds you of me when I am not there?
- 34What do you wear that still smells like me?
- 35What song makes you miss me even more?
- 36What do you notice missing first in the quiet after we hang up?
- 37What do you do with your side of the bed when I am not in it?
- 38What stranger has ever made you think of me for a second?
- 39What do you miss about me that has nothing to do with how I look?
- 40What helps you most on the nights missing me feels heaviest?
- 41What do you do with everything you want to tell me but cannot yet?
- 42What part of missing me have you gotten strangely good at?
- 43What do you let yourself feel about missing me only late at night?
- 44What would you tell the version of you that misses me most tonight?
Planning your next visit
- 45What do you want us to do the second I land?
- 46What meal do you want me to make you when I visit?
- 47What is the first thing you want to do once we are finally alone together?
- 48How many days into a visit before it stops feeling like a countdown?
- 49What do you want ready for me the moment I walk in the door?
- 50What do you refuse to skip on our next visit, no matter how short it is?
- 51What do you want us to leave out this time so we have more time together?
- 52What does the perfect first hour of a visit look like to you?
- 53What do you want us to do together that we cannot do apart?
- 54What is harder for you, the start of a visit or the end?
- 55What do you want to be wearing the moment you finally see me in person?
- 56What do you want me to bring you this time?
Staying close from afar
- 57What daily habit of ours makes the distance feel smaller?
- 58What do you do to feel close to me on a day we barely talk?
- 59What has surprised you most about staying together through this distance?
- 60What small ritual of ours do you never want us to drop?
- 61What do you do to still feel like part of my everyday life?
- 62What has this distance taught you about how you love?
- 63What do you trust about us that this distance has never touched?
- 64What do you do for us that I probably do not fully know about?
- 65What keeps you certain about this on the days it feels far away?
- 66What is one part of long distance that surprises you by being easy?
- 67What do you do differently now than in your very first weeks apart?
- 68What makes this distance feel worth it to you?
Talking about the future
- 69What does the day we finally close this distance look like in your head?
- 70Where do you actually want us to end up living together?
- 71What are you willing to give up to end this distance sooner?
- 72What scares you most about ordinary life once we are finally in the same place?
- 73What do you look forward to most about never having to say goodbye again?
- 74What is the first ordinary thing you want us to do once we share a city?
- 75What timeline do you privately think about, even if we have not said it out loud?
- 76What do you think this distance is preparing us for?
- 77What do you want our life to look like the year this distance ends?
- 78What do you never want to take for granted once we finally live together?
- 79What would make you feel ready to close this distance, even if timing is not perfect?
- 80What do you hope this time apart ends up proving about us?
