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21 questions to ask

21 questions to ask

The classic game, one honest question at a time.

21 Questions is the game that started a thousand crushes. Twenty-one turns, no dodging, and you learn more than a month of small talk.

Take turns, answer honestly, and let the deep-cut ones slow the game down when they land.

21 questions / Getting personal

What is your gut reaction the second someone criticizes you?

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Take turns. Each of you asks and answers the same question before moving to the next.

  1. 1What is your order at the place you go to most?
  2. 2What is the last thing you screenshotted and never looked at again?
  3. 3What is a small thing you do every single morning without fail?
  4. 4Are you a hot sleeper or a cold sleeper?
  5. 5What is the oldest thing you own that you still use?
  6. 6What condiment do you put on almost everything?
  7. 7What is a word you always seem to mispronounce?
  8. 8What is a smell that instantly puts you in a good mood?
  9. 9What is the first thing you notice about a room you walk into?
  10. 10What is a task you will always find a reason to delay?
  11. 11What is something you keep in your car that has no business being there?
  12. 12What is the last thing that made you laugh out loud alone?
  13. 13What is a habit your friends could clock from a mile away?
  14. 14What is one thing you always check before you leave the house?

Getting personal

  1. 15What is something about you that takes people a while to notice?
  2. 16What is a small lie you tell just to keep the peace?
  3. 17What is something you have gotten noticeably better at this year?
  4. 18What is your default excuse when you want to leave early?
  5. 19What is a strong opinion you hold about something totally trivial?
  6. 20What is a topic you will absolutely not budge on?
  7. 21What is the first sign you are annoyed, even if you will not say it?
  8. 22What is something you quietly judge people for?
  9. 23What is your gut reaction the second someone criticizes you?
  10. 24What is a subject you know way more about than you probably should?
  11. 25What is something you have never fully grown out of?
  12. 26What is the last assumption someone made about you that was completely wrong?
  13. 27What is a boundary you only learned to set recently?
  14. 28What is a habit you have tried to quit more than once?

Love and dating

  1. 29What is the most obvious sign that you like someone?
  2. 30What is a dating red flag you used to ignore?
  3. 31What is a romantic movie moment you would actually want in real life?
  4. 32What is your honest rule about who should text first?
  5. 33What is a green flag about you that most people would not even notice?
  6. 34What is a dealbreaker you did not have five years ago?
  7. 35What is a dating trend you think is completely ridiculous?
  8. 36What is the most romantic thing you have ever pulled off for someone?
  9. 37What is the most dramatic thing you have ever done over a crush?
  10. 38What is a small thing that instantly makes someone more attractive to you?
  11. 39What is a love song that sums up how you love people?
  12. 40What is your honest take on public displays of affection?
  13. 41What is the longest you ever liked someone before making a move?
  14. 42What is the most useless dating advice anyone has ever given you?

Deep cuts

  1. 43What is something you got away with that still makes you nervous to think about?
  2. 44What is the boldest thing you have ever done on a dare?
  3. 45What is a talent almost nobody knows you have?
  4. 46What is a lie you told so well you almost believed it yourself?
  5. 47What is a rule you broke that you do not regret breaking?
  6. 48What is the biggest secret someone has ever trusted you with?
  7. 49What is a version of yourself you left behind on purpose?
  8. 50What is the closest you have come to getting caught red-handed?
  9. 51What is a question you would rather deflect than answer honestly?
  10. 52What is a memory you have never told the full story of?
  11. 53What is something about you that would surprise even people who know you well?
  12. 54What is the wildest rumor anyone has ever believed about you?
  13. 55What is a truth you avoid saying, even to yourself?
  14. 56What is the most impulsive decision you have ever made that actually paid off?
  15. 57What is something you would only admit under truth serum?
  16. 58What is the last thing you did that you hope your parents never find out about?

Just for fun

  1. 59If you needed a walk-up song for every entrance, what would you pick?
  2. 60If a nature documentary narrated your life today, what would it say about you?
  3. 61If you had to survive on one meal for an entire year, what would you choose?
  4. 62If you woke up tomorrow with a random new talent, what would it be?
  5. 63If you could banish one household chore from existence forever, which one goes first?
  6. 64If your playlist could only include songs from one year, which year would that be?
  7. 65If you could only speak in movie quotes for a week straight, could you survive it?
  8. 66If you were the villain in your own story, what would your evil plan actually be?
  9. 67If you could instantly win one old argument from your past, which one would you pick?
  10. 68If you had unlimited money for exactly one weekend, what would you actually do?
  11. 69If your search history became a documentary, what would the title be?
  12. 70If you had to give up one sense for an entire year, which would you sacrifice?
  13. 71If any celebrity could guest star in your life for a day, who would you pick?
  14. 72If your life were a video game, what would the loading screen tip say?

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